Man has it been a while since I’ve last communicated with you. It’s safe to say that I’ve been really busy and did not have intentions of ignoring you – no no, not at all! It has been a hectic couple of weeks just trying to stay organized and on top of my training game for my clients and as a result, I have had the worst case of writer’s block or “mental dead space” that has put me in a dry spell.
The motivation train has been stuck at one station. Yes friends, I am human and it’s nice to meet you.
Being “stuck” is quite the challenge to get out of. It’s like being in quicksand and you the more you struggle to get out, the deeper you feel like you’re sinking.
Have you ever felt like this?
I’m pretty sure you have because, let’s face it – we are all human. As driven as we are and as motivated as we are to eat clean, get sleep, and train hard, we still find ourselves “stuck” at times…which can be quite discouraging, even to motivators like myself (once again the human factor kicks in).
So what can lead to this happening? Why do we go from ground zero to cloud 9 back to ground zero? Allow me to expand in three ways:
1 – YOU’RE DOING WAY TOO MUCH IN TOO LITTLE TIME
Have you ever tried to be in 5 places at once? Pretty much impossible #amirite? As much as we attempt to multi-task our way through life, it doesn’t seem to work out the way we desire it to. The same thing when it comes to our fitness goals. If we try to do many things at once, we spread ourselves too thin which leads to nothing getting accomplished which leads to discouragement.
WHAT TO DO? – Focus on one goal at a time and check it off your list! Then move on to the next one. For example: if you’re having a hard time eliminating sugar from your eating regime and going all out cold turkey, make your goal to be sugar-free three out of seven days of the week. Keep at it for a week or two (or three if need be) and see how you feel. Then, make your next goal four days out of the week. Before you know it, your sweet tooth will be tamed for good and under control
2 – YOUR SUPPORT TEAM IS NON-EXISTENT
We all have the capability going on a road trip alone…but isn’t it much more fun with your clique in tow? When I would visit from Toronto to see my girlfriend-turned-First-Lady, I often went solo with just a can of Redbull and music. But when my friends would come with me, it changed the whole experience – I could be a passenger sometimes and take a short rest from driving.
Your support team can do that for you! Think of the people that matter in your life that are able to drive with you. Even if they’re not with you physically, just knowing that they have your back and will encourage you to keep your foot on the gas and go can make a HUGE difference in your results.
WHAT TO DO – choose your support team and let them know what your goals, how you’re going about achieving those goals, and what you need from them as being part of your support team. For example: if you’re making the best effort to eat clean, let your team know that you need their help to remind you of your goals so as to not retreat and throw in the towel. Your commitment may lead to them making changes too and BAM! You’re both on the same pageJ
3 – YOU TALK A GOOD GAME BUT HAVE YET TO BACK IT UP
Truth hurts: you talk too much about what you want to do and where you want to be and how you want to feel but you have yet to decide and act. That’s what separates goal achievers and dreamers – one takes action while the other just thinks about it.
How can one move forward if they don’t take the first step? How can one get their feet wet if they don’t set foot near the water? How can you really make a success of your gameplan if you don’t even play?
Decide, commit, take action, struggle through it, acknowledge your milestones, continue t struggle, and…mission accomplished. Of course this process will take time and is not an overnight adjustment, but when you look back on where you have been to get you to that point – the sacrifices, the rejections, the sweat, the energy expended, the good times and the not-so-good times, the mistakes made – you’ll have a story to tell and a means of motivation for yourself and for others.
But…to do that, you first have to stop talking and get to work. Period.
WHAT TO DO – seek encouragement and advice/tips from someone who was once in your shoes and ask them how they did it. Find people who are in the same boat as you and work together! Kill the fear of failing and accept the fact that you will falter sometimes (because we’re human…but do not use that as a means to justify your actions).
This will take some work, and it won’t be easy…but the best things yet to come are not the easiest to get to. Be determined to stick through the process, one step at a time, one goal at a time. Before you know it, you’ll be out of that quick sand and back on your feet.
Now let’s get this already, shall we?
Trainer Profile: Kareem Rawlins
Experience Personal Training – 5 years | Nutrition Counseling – 3 years | Group Fitness – 3 years